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[ToyAddict94]

I'm 20 years old and I am a long time meiki user ( have the Ozawa and zxy). Although I have heard many reviews saying that these meiki's are very close to the real thing, I have always pictured the real vagina to feel significantly better. Granted, that was my intuition as sex is so hyped up. When I use my meikis I never ever believed they would even feel remotely close to a vagina. I just enjoyed them for stimulation.

So I got a little too curious. everyone tells me that sex is the best feeling in the world, that nothing can beat it and nothing can get better. That if you have never had sex you are really missing out. So that gave me the incorrect intuition I had about meiki's v. sex.

So I went on to Craigslist and found myself a friend with benefits. She never let me have sex for a long time and we had to be friends and we had to do a lot of things together first. We shared lots of good times etc. And then 6 months later, we had sex for the first time--unprotected sex (non-condom). She enjoyed it, but I think my meikis ruined it for me.

I felt disappointed, I thought sex was going to be Significantly better than meikis. I thought sex would feel so different and so pleasant like everyone makes it out to be!

In fact, sex did not feel THAT different from my ozawa/zxy. In fact, I've had better orgasms from these toys at times when I'm really turned on. Does anyone else share these experiences?

Maybe her vagina just isn't as effective as some other ladies? Or maybe I just got deluded with the overhype of sex? High expectations and all?

Have you ever felt that the ozawa and zxy are close to the real thing? I couldn't believe it when I read reviews, my intuition didn't let me.

If sex actually feels like the ozawa or zxy (which is pleasant but not 'best thing in the world'), then why is it so overhyped? Honestly after sex with her, I couldn't stop thinking "this is the best feeling in the world...this is what life has to offer".

Do you think her vagina just isn't as effective? I'm slightly above average in size. All I can safely say is that doing it with her reminded me of my meiki's (when warmed up and lubed) but she was a little less stimulating. I lasted a little longer inside her.

If this is the case with most women, then why don't all men just avoid women and pick up some meikis?

[BigDog]

Have heart, having sex and sharing emotions are a learned response, the more you do the more you 'learn'  Comparisons are not however to be overlooked, just know they will be different.  When I eat a cookie, I love the taste, the feel, the sensation.  When I eat pie it is just as rewarding, only in a different way.  I would recommend giving it time, drop if you can the self-conscienceness of being with another person and just live in that moment, do not let the pressure of performance ruin it for you.

With that said - is sex with one person better (different) than with another, yes it is.  Is the overall experience better or just different between a person and an object is what you are asking and all I can say is "it is different".  What you have with a person is an emotional experience, something that is shared, you are tied together with that emotion and experience.  If you find it more 'trouble' than the pleasure you receive then perhaps you have your answer - but with such a small amount of experience as what you say you have, I would say that it is way to soon for you to just give up having the relationship with a person. 

I would say that many who read the forums, and have 'sex' toys, also have a sexual live partner, or more than one as well.  So then why do they have sex toys?  Because of the difference I would say, having one does not negate having the other - in fact I would say it allows you to keep a emotional relationship alive when you can have your private moments with an object.

Sorry for the long response, did not want this to be a counseling session - just know it will be different, as with different onaholes is different, different people, and between the twol  You will be fine, live, enjoy, experience life a bit more.

[HardGay]

I agree with Bigdog, I have a partner and have a crap load of toys for myself, I still prefer real sex whenever I get a chance to have it. It's all about the whole experience you share with another person when you have sex, the emotion you put in, the response you get from the other person. all these are things that a sex toy will not give you other than stimulation and alot of your own imagination 

Definitely don't be discouraged about real sex, I wonder if it's also the about the partner you have, your emotion toward that person as a FWB or a lover.... so the next discussion should be, the difference between having sex and making LOOOOOOOVE~~

[DaaaBears]

like what others have said before, emotions and what you feel for the other person plays a huge role in sex. So maybe in the future if you find someone that you love and super into, rather than a FWB, then it might be the best thing in the world for you.

[lobotomize94]

Well, I think you expected sex to feel significantly better to your meiki's and when that expectation wasn't met, you were disappointed.

Not only were you disappointed, but you were surprised that sex wasn't that much better because of the way society hypes it up. So it became counter-intuitive to you, hence your rant.

Sometimes sex feels better than meikis (there is more to sex than just the stimulation on your penis) and other times meikis give you to most intense, severe and euphoric orgasm you have ever felt in your life.

I feel like these meikis are very close to the real thing especially when you use them handsfree in the plush. So you (and all other virgin meiki users) should expect the stimulation of your penis during sex to be not *that* much different in fact you may find less stimulation from the real thing. But when you are with the right woman, you may find sex to be better because of the emotional connection (or so I have heard).

There are guys out there who just can't find an emotional connection with someone else. I think I am one too, I've never been in love (when I say in love, I mean like actually care for the person I am with and adore her so much that she is the focus of my life). I've never had sex for love, it was mostly just for fun.

I still prefer sex over meikis despite their accuracy and how stimulating they feel. It is the attraction you have with your partner, the way they move and act during the motions etc.

[bhh]

Definitely not a pro since I'm still a virgin, but I have heard things about too much porn decreases sensitivity to the real thing - or in other words you are desensitized from the whole experience because you see sex and naked women all the time.

Maybe try not watching porn or masturbating/using meiki and see if it improves.

Look up NoFap and go to the about page and it'll give you some info on this too.

http://www.nofap.org/about

You can also read the site Yourbrainonporn

http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/desensitization-numbed-pleasure-response

This might even improve your meiki experience, such as hands free.

[jayo]

I've heard that from damn near everyone--the first time is a disappointment.  It's an acquired skill.  It takes some time to get in sync, get a rythmn going, learn what you like and what your partner likes.  You'll get it.

[pinkodachee]

I've felt the same way. I had a one night stand a few months ago with no condom. After I had sex, later that day I went home to use the Meiki zxy and realized just how realistic the ZXY felt - it felt like actual pussy. However, when you first enter a real vagina, you can feel her walls slowly loosen up to accommodate your size and she isn't fully wet so the dryness of her vagina really clings to your penis...those first few moments are the best of sex, and the ZXY is just an already dilated hole that fails to replicate that nuance.

I've tried about four Fleshlights before discovering the ZXY, and they can't compare, the zxy is truly realistic except for that ridge at the top of the canal that juts out and it feels weird when going in from the back. Moreover, if you use a lube like IDGlide or Astroglide the zxy will not feel anywhere as good or realistic as using a lube designed for onaholes.

My penile sensitivity differs greatly though. Sometimes I can't last inside a woman or the zxy for a minute, other times I can last for 20 minutes.

Still I don't feel less inspired to have sex with real women. Real women have tits, dat ass, you can kiss them and go down on them, and the visual of fucking them adds to the hotness. Nothing compares when you have a fit woman on top of you riding you, and her boobs in your face while you're reaching around grabbing her ass cheeks.

[johnhiggin]

Welcome to the "disappointed" club. Sex is incredibly overrated/overhyped and I was also let down by it. I think the two reasons it gets hyped up so much is first, many who hype it up relish the emotional connection so if you don't feel that then it loses a lot of the impact. The other reason is that people are programmed to want to reproduce and that sex is so amazing so they just blindly follow that regardless if reality doesn't match the biological programming. The biological programming is very strong seeing as I know that sex is overrated yet there I am often getting the thoughts that I need to have sex because it is wonderful. Thankfully my logical brain is able to overpower that basic programming.

The worst thing is when you say you feel it is overrated and a person says "you're doing it wrong" which in my experience is the answer given by people who have a low level of intelligence.