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[Meiki Lover]

Hi all,

i had real condom sex for the first time about a week ago and i must say it felt very boring compared to my Meikis which i always use without condom. It actually reminded me of my go with the EPH with a condom on. So does using Meikis without a condom ruin you for condom sex? I think it did for me!! Meikis feel awesome and real condom sex, for me at least, feels just ok. When i used the EPH with condom i pulled it off in a heartbeat!! Do any of you feel the same way? I'm looking forward to your responses!

[Universal]

Hi all,

i had real condom sex for the first time about a week ago and i must say it felt very boring compared to my Meikis which i always use without condom. It actually reminded me of my go with the EPH with a condom on. So does using Meikis without a condom ruin you for condom sex? I think it did for me!! Meikis feel awesome and real condom sex, for me at least, feels just ok. When i used the EPH with condom i pulled it off in a heartbeat!! Do any of you feel the same way? I'm looking forward to your responses!

There are a million other factors that come into play with "real sex." So many, in fact, I've always found it silly to compare the two at all.

At its base level, a Meiki experience is you getting to have at your intended at any speed, frequency, depth, angle, etc etc etc. Shes a captive audience.  If you chose a compatible product, you get what you want when you want it. (sometimes to your detriment)

Real sex, even with a condom, is about the bonding, sharing, and the give and take. The majority of the experience comes from how well you get along and *connect* with the other person, not the size, shape, or state of her canal (though, do warm her up first. Makes her not only wetter, but tighter.)

As you seem to be in the learning stages of sex, its understandable you misfocus on what are the best parts of the experience. Also likely is that your partner isn't the most experienced either and won't know you, your body, her own (or his own, no judgements here) or the dance that is sharing each others bodies for mutual pleasure.

Meikis, all sex toys really, "benefit" is mostly in the learning of and understanding of your own body so that you can share that with the individuals you are with.  That tends to make them better able to please you AND open them up to sharing what it is that makes them feel good.

Think about it like this. You can go for a walk around your neighborhood just about any time you please but it becomes stagnant because its just you and its the same sights, sounds, places, etc.

You go for a walk with someone who you connect with though, its a totally different experience even though youre retreading the same ground you always do and its physically the same activity. (one foot in front of the other)

Its new, different, exciting, and a little unknown. Its an *experience* whereas walking around the block is sort of just exercise, maybe even a chore/bore.

Thats, wherein, the beauty of sex lies.  You find the right person to connect with and your body and mind will go places you never even thought possible. Ejaculation is cool and has its place in our mental health and well-being. But its not *connecting* with someone.

We are social animals of the highest order. We need it to be well and to survive. If your "sex" is a lesser experience than stimulating yourself with a silicon toy, you need to find a sexual partner more suited to you and that you connect with.

My most intense physical orgasms have likely come from some insanely designed supertunnel toy. And yes, they knock me on my ass for 30min to an hour. And no, no female alive (hopefully) has one of those canals.  But it is all physical. They're awesome but if you really focus on the whole of it, you tend to find something "missing."

The mind/body orgasm though? Those only come when youre with someone you really click with. And those things leave you in a stupor for days. (weeks if you somehow get another one while still "coming down" from the original high.

Try to pay less attention to your willy sensations and more on whats going on around you and with your partner. With Meikis you develop (and maybe in your case *overdevelop*) your physical sensation and response to sex.  Focus on the psychological triggering of an orgasm. So unbelievably intense. If you have a heart condition, talk to your doctor before engaging in this activity. (Im not a Dr nor play one on tv. 

[johnhiggin]

As Universal stated, they're different experiences and real sex has more involved than just the physical feeling and if just going by physical sensation you experience then I'm sure for most real sex will come up short to these toys since vaginas and mouths don't have the internal designs as toys do.

I myself lack a lot of the bonding/emotional component most people have which seems to be required to make sex so great as many seem to think it is and it is more about physical sensations for me. I haven't had sex in a very long time and it was before I ever started to use toys so I am sure if I had it now it'd be a disappointment seeing as it wasn't anything special to begin with (I much preferred oral to vaginal too) which is one reason why I haven't had it in a long time.

Oh and from what I recall way back when, I didn't notice any huge difference between condom and no condom.

[Meiki Lover]

Thank's to the both of you! I don't have a gf. It was just a one time ride to see how it compared to Meiki. Now i obviously can't say if it is any different with a girl you've known for so and so long but i can imagine that the bond makes it somewhat more special although the feeling stays the same. I'll have to wait and see until opportunity comes knocking to compare that to Meiki. For now i'll just stick to the Meikis then I have my troubles with being interested in other people, not sure why, it's just the way it is.

[boldav49]

WoW Universal that was a great description of the difference between Meiki sex and the real thing! For me real sex is about the intimacy between two people and trying to make the other personal feel great, while Meiki sex is just about making ME feel good.  Both types are enjoyable and they have their time and place.

[DenverLastDinosaur]

Wow, universal! I really wasn't exspecting such a well thought out and amazing reply.

Kudos to you.

Just as there are as many people in the worl and as many personalities, there are just as many reasons for people to use sex toys.

I'm not saying anyone is right or wrong in what they prefer, but people's tastes change all the time. I disliked mayo and had no problem avoiding it and I never felt anything amazing getting a blowjob (even though movies and TV make it out to be an amazing thing. But now, I love Mayo... And I don't care in trying to convince a girl to give me a blowjob because I don't want one. LoL